You can have the child that everyone enjoys and wants to be around. Plus, you will not ever have to hear from another parent how your toddler hitting, kicking, biting, or pushing other children, has spoiled another afternoon. No more embarrassing reports of misbehavior from daycare professionals or preschool advisors. You can go to the grocery store with a happy, easy going, cooperative child and with no worries of a temper tantrum or emotional outburst of any kind. You can leave all those stresses behind you very easily. This is all very possible, even though it may not seem that way to you right now.
Some children act out by hitting other kids as a means of getting attention. Others find it as a way of getting what they want and this can become habit forming and weave its way into a part of the child's development. For any toddler, hitting is a completely natural act. They are always banging on things when playing with toys and it is an instinctive movement.
However, as they begin to learn more verbal skills in order to communicate their needs and wants in a more creative, comprehensive and productive manner, the aggressive behavior usually stops. The methods used by those who lack these communicative skills are usually demonstrated by the more angry toddler, frustrated by this lack of ability to adequately express themselves they resort to physical force.
To the toddler, hitting, pushing, and shoving, is just a way of showing, (though is the wrong way) that they are also capable and able. Children are competitive by nature. The developmental stage from toddler hitting, to toddler talking things through is different for every child and happens in various ways and times.
You can actually play a role in speeding up this process and without any thing unnatural, either. You can develop a better relationship with your child and lock that bond on tightly, so that you will be their primary influence in the future of their life. You can teach them better ways to communicate and how better to solve their conflicts with positive outcomes through better behavior. You can also provide a more positive perspective of the way they see the parent-child relationship. You will gain respect in the eyes of your children, and be viewed as the leader that provides solutions.
All children misbehave and need discipline but for a toddler hitting other kids, the discipline must be specific and firm. Acts of physical aggression and outburst resulting in violence must be dealt with immediate firmness and action. It should be handled always by removing the aggressor from everything and everyone. No positive attention should be given to them in regards to their outburst. In fact, it must be discussed with them, immediately after they have completely cooled down. Then, with serious concern, explain to them that any toddler hitting another person is always seen as bad, and that other people associate that behavior with immature little brats. And any toddler hitting, pushing, shoving or even intimidating anyone, in any way, is absolutely unacceptable behavior.
Make the discipline stern and yet, while communicating this try to convey some understanding of what they are going through. Share with them an instance of when you went through the difficulty of controlling your anger and frustrations. Provide them with another outlet to express themselves and let them know you understand how hard it might be for them. Share with them, anytime you think they are really trying or making progress and tell them your proud of them.
As I am sure that many of you have no doubt tried this method and maybe have yet to see any result. Just continue trying what you are doing that you think is working and ditch what you are certain is not helping. One thing that I suggest for any parent who wants to stop toddler hitting, biting, kicking, whining, pushing, and misbehavior on all levels, or to re-establish love and a connection, and start having more fun again as a parent, just get the program,' Turning Misbehavior into Great Behavior 2o days to a new child' and get to it. It is truly remarkable how quickly and effectively it works. The response and feedback it is getting is excellent and gaining in popularity increasing fast. Because it works!
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